The interpretation and thoughts contained herein come from several commentaries and especially from a sermon given by Dr. Derek Thomas given on September 8, 2019 at First Presbyterian Church of Columbia, SC. You can find a link on the church web page or at sermonaudio.com. This sermon was an inspiration for this writing which, in turn, was for the comfort of dear brethren.
Jesus Wept
John 11:35
This, the shortest verse in Scripture, is well know to Christians and has been the subject of countless writings and sermons. These two words, Ἱησοῦσς ἑδάκρυσεν (Iēsous edakrysen), are rich with meaning. In this passage we see Jesus facing the death of his beloved friend, Lazarus, the brother of Martha and Mary. We not only learn about death from Jesus’ words and reactions, but also about our savior who is both fully human and fully God. Jesus is confronted with a loss that all people have or will face.
In this passage we see a great contrast of how the unbelieving world and Christians confront death. All rational people understand that death is horrible. The death of a loved one, parent, sibling, child, relative, or friend, is the greatest loss. Our strong emotional response reflects this loss. All peoples, cultures, and religions have customs and rituals surrounding death that reflect their worldview. Yet despite all these things, despite periods of mourning, the loss does not go away in this life. There is an empty chair, a silence, and a relational void in which our grief echoes.
Death is universal. It is inescapable. It will touch all in this life, save, perhaps, those who know not death at the time of the parousia. Death is a stark reality that renders naked our man-made ideas, our goals, our aspirations, and our philosophy. How are those who survive comforted?
Christians who are facing death or have lost loved ones must learn from Jesus’ example.
Context
In John 11, Jesus is informed that his friend Lazarus is dying. He is with the disciples by the Jordan River near the place where John began his ministry of baptism (evidently outside Judea). The Scribes, Priests, and Pharisees were seeking his life and it was dangerous for him to go near Jerusalem. Mary and Martha sent for Jesus hoping he would come and heal their brother. “But when Jesus heard it he said, ‘This illness does not lead to death. It is for the glory of God, so that the Son of God may be glorified through it’” (Jn 11:4). The disciples did not understand the meaning here. It appears they understood Jesus words to mean that Lazarus would recover.
Jesus waited two days and then announced he was going to Judea. The disciples reminded Jesus that the people in Judea were seeking to stone him. Jesus states “Our friend Lazarus has fallen asleep, but I go to awaken him” (Jn 11:11). The disciples thought Lazarus was resting and would recover. Therefore, they concluded that there was no need for Jesus to go. Then Jesus plainly said “Lazarus has died, and for your sake I am glad that I was not there, so that you may believe. But let us go to him” (Jn 11:14–15).
Jesus knew that Lazarus was physically dead. He was trying to teach the disciples in word and sign-act (miracles). Jesus knew he would raise Lazarus from the tomb and that Lazarus died for this very purpose, to demonstrate God’s glory. God will demonstrate power over evil and death. The ultimate demonstration of this power and victory is Jesus’ substitutionary death and resurrection.
When Jesus arrives, Lazarus has been in the Tomb four days. He is not only dead but decomposing. Many people have come to console Mary and Martha. Jewish custom at that time was to have professional mourners and musicians playing funeral music. The professional mourners would wail even though they had no relationship to the deceased and may have few genuine feelings. The scene was likely very noisy and demonstrative. As best I can discern this custom is not from Scripture but was that of men. It is recorded in the Mishna, a compilation of Jewish legal interpretation.[1]
Martha runs out to meet Jesus and says “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died. But even now I know that whatever you ask from God, God will give you” (Jn 11:21–22). Martha believes in the general resurrection of the faithful but did not understand that Jesus is God incarnate. Witness how Jesus gently instructs her: “Jesus said to her, ‘Your brother will rise again.’ Martha said to him, ‘I know that he will rise again in the resurrection on the last day.’ Jesus said to her, ‘I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this?’ She said to him, ‘Yes, Lord; I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who is coming into the world’” (Jn 11:23–27).
Mary, Martha’s sister remained in the house. When she heard Jesus was calling for her, she went immediately to meet him outside the town. The mourners and comforters followed her assuming she was going to the tomb. Jesus sees Mary weeping and this large ceremonial entourage in tow.
“Now when Mary came to where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet, saying to him, ‘Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.’ When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in his spirit and greatly troubled. And he said, ‘Where have you laid him?’ They said to him, ‘Lord, come and see’” (Jn 11:32–34).
Notice Mary and Martha said the same thing to Jesus: “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.” Jesus’ response to Mary is quite different. Jesus gave Martha a lesson regarding the resurrection and his person. Now Jesus is “deeply moved” and “greatly troubled.” Mary has different needs than Martha.
The Greek word translated “deeply moved,” ἐμβριμάομαι (embriaomai), is an intense feeling that implies indignation. It is used outside the Bible to describe the snorting of horses.[2] In other words, there is a component of anger in Jesus’ response, perhaps outrage. The Greek word translated “greatly troubled” depicts one so agitated that they are shaking. Jesus’ emotional reaction is very strong. He is upset and shaking mad. Remember that this reaction is “in spirit,” or inward. He did not show this externally. It is not simple empathy and grief.
Why is this reaction so intense? Jesus knew he was to raise Lazarus. Therefore, Jesus’ reaction is not despair as is common among non-believers. D.A. Carson comments:
“Some think that Jesus is moved by their grief, and is consequently angry with the sin, sickness and death in this fallen world that wreaks so much havoc and generates so much sorrow. Others think that the anger is directed at the unbelief itself. The men and women before him were grieving like pagans, like ‘the rest of men, who have no hope’ (1 Thes. 4:13). Profound grief at such bereavement is natural enough; grief that degenerates to despair, that pours out its loss as if there were no resurrection, is an implicit denial of that resurrection.”[3]
Commentators have identified three objects of Jesus’ indignation. The first is that of death itself. Death, the result of the fall, would take his dear friend and cause great suffering to the sisters he loved. Death, emblematic of the corruption of a world infested by sin, confronts Jesus with the entire effects of the fall that he has come to undo. The second is Satan, the prince who rules this world and holds the power of death. Jesus has come to defeat Satan as well as death. The third may be the unbelief of the people who are mourning. They do not understand what the Scripture has taught regarding God’s salvific purpose in history, much less the resurrection. This in plain in their response “But some of them said, ‘Could not he who opened the eyes of the blind man also have kept this man from dying?’” (Jn 11:37). Andreas Köstenberger postulates that Jesus is bracing himself for the battle against death as demonstrated in the raising of Lazarus.[4] Jesus’ reaction is likely all these and more. Our translations seriously understate the state of our Lord’s spiritual agitation.
Jesus wept
The Greek word translated as “wept,” ἑδάκρυσεν (edakrysen), means “to cry.” It is a different word than that used to describe the weeping of Mary and the others. That Greek word is κλαίουσαν (klaiousan). The latter emphasizes the noise that accompanies the weeping. Such noise is that of the professional mourners.[5] Jesus was shaking mad and profoundly grieved in spirit but outwardly shed quiet tears. The loud, demonstrative wailing of the mourners is the result of grieving without hope. Jesus’ quiet flood of tears demonstrates his humanity. What can we learn from all this?
Lazarus is in Heaven
In the parable of the rich man and Lazarus (another Lazarus; Luke 16:19-31), we are told Lazarus lay in the bosom of Abraham (is in heaven) while the rich man is in Hades. Without going into a full explanation of this passage, Jesus is teaching that the faithful Lazarus was in heaven after he died. This Lazarus’ soul was in heaven. His body is decomposing in the tomb. While Jesus is crying, Lazarus is experiencing indescribable beauty and bliss. He is in the presence of God. This is the expected post-mortem destination of all the elect who experience physical death. Lazarus will undergo a bodily resurrection at the end of this age.
Derek Thomas, in a recent sermon[6], postulated that Jesus’ tears were multifold. In addition to grieving over what was before him in terms of suffering, Jesus understood that he would recall Lazarus from paradise back into the sinful, corrupt world of suffering only to experience more pain and another physical death. That is reason to grieve. Would not Lazarus prefer to remain where he was? Is he doing Lazarus a good turn by resurrecting him? Lazarus was chosen to return for this very purpose, for the glory of God.
Think of the incarnation of our Lord. The second person of the Trinity exists in perfect communion with the Father and Holy Spirit. He then leaves this perfection and condescends to our level. The writer of Hebrews explains it well: “But we see him who for a little while was made lower than the angels, namely Jesus, crowned with glory and honor because of the suffering of death, so that by the grace of God he might taste death for everyone. For it was fitting that he, for whom and by whom all things exist, in bringing many sons to glory, should make the founder of their salvation perfect through suffering (Heb 2:9–10).
Jesus leaves heaven, being made in the form of man, lower than the angels, that he may be our savior. Jesus would be humiliated in life and death. But in his resurrection, Jesus will be glorified and take his place as King. But first he must live a perfect life in a fallen world full of suffering, temptation and sin. Then he must become the pascal lamb, our substitute, that God’s justice be satisfied. On the Cross he paid all our debts and suffered the combined punishment of everyone he came to save, past, present and future.
Lazarus’ resurrection is, in a way, sad for Lazarus. But as a faithful servant chosen for this task, he must suffer for yet a little while longer. Having a first-hand knowledge of what heaven is like must have strengthened him. Knowing that his suffering was part of God’s plan of redemption must have given him great comfort. His sisters and the others present did not understand this. They wanted Lazarus back and thought that was best for him and them. This is the pagan viewpoint and not the Christian.
There are many who claim to have gone to heaven and returned. They claim a false beatific vision. God used such miracles as demonstrations of his power and authority. Miracles authenticate the message and the messenger. They have been limited to very few people and for a very limited periods of time. With the close of the apostolic age, as the faith spread and the Gospels and writings were created and passed on, miracles and signs were no longer necessary. The Jews were always asking for signs but were unwilling to believe. They had no faith. We have the Holy Spirit as our comforter and guide. We need no signs “for we walk by faith and not by sight” (2 Corinthians 5:7).
When we lose loved ones who are Christian, we must understand that he or she is in heaven in the arms of Jesus. They are in paradise, a place of unspeakable beauty, peace, and joy. They are experiencing the best anyone can wish or hope for. To desire that they stay here and never go there is wrong, and perhaps selfish. To linger in this world is to linger in the realm of Satan. Heaven is where they are meant to be and is the purpose to which they lived. To long for their return is to wish upon them what Jesus was to do to Lazarus. Both Mary and Martha wished Jesus would have come and healed Lazarus. Martha seems to be indirectly asking Jesus to bring Lazarus back. Mary was wailing with the mourners in despair, as one who had no understanding and hope.
Jesus wept.
Our High Priest
“Since then we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus, the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” (Heb 4:14–16)
Because Jesus was a man he identifies and has solidarity with us in every way save sin. He sympathizes with our weakness, suffering, and fears. Jesus experienced fatigue, thirst, hunger, insult, pain, loss, and physical death (also joy, laughter, and love). Our God is not some abstract being somewhere out there who is so detached from our suffering as to be remote and cold. The God of Deists, such as Thomas Jefferson, is a false god who, like a watchmaker creates the world, winds it up and lets it go without any further involvement. Such an errant view denies the testimony of scripture in passages such as the one under consideration.
In facing death, the Christian has a sure hope and most die well, in peace knowing where they are going. Likewise, when losing a faithful loved one we must understand that they are truly in heaven. We must do more than understand this intellectually. We must understand it spiritually and faithfully. We must know this, hope in this, and trust Jesus. Trust is the essential element of saving faith.
And because we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our loss and grief, he sends the comforter to us; the Holy Spirit. He has given us his living written Word that we may also be comforted and grow in grace. He sends others into our lives to be a blessing and comfort, our family of God, our brethren.
In all this we are given constant reminders of what we already know. No matter how long we have been Christian, no matter how much we study our Bibles and pray, we need to hear these simple truths over and again. We are not yet perfected. We hurt and it does not go away so easily or at all. We are instructed what to do: to pray, to worship, to study our Bible and not to neglect the gathering of the Church. We are to trust and listen to the Spirit indwelling in us. We are to live our lives, in all the humdrum and commonness, doing the next task at work, at home and wherever we are called, always looking to Jesus and trusting in Jesus.
Jesus does not expect us to be stoic. Look at Jesus’ indignation and tears! We are to follow him and conform to his likeness. Death brings sorrow, agitation, anger and loss. We are Mary and Martha. It is instructive that these two approached Jesus with the same question yet totally different responses and needs. They represent two aspects of the tension surrounding death. They reflect and express our worldly desires which are at odds with God’s will. Jesus did not bring Lazarus back simply out of empathy, remorse, or to do what the sister’s asked of him. Nay, Jesus brought Lazarus back for the Glory of God alone. Jesus tenderly ministered to each according to their needs and he will likewise to us.
Martha needed understanding regarding the person of Jesus and Mary needed tears and sympathy. Everyone present needed to understand who and what Jesus was and who and what they were. They would see in the raising of Lazarus a preview of what would happen to Jesus in a short time. Mary and Martha would remain with Jesus at the Cross and attend to his anointing and burial. Then, they would see Jesus in his resurrected, glorified body and be called (for the first time) sisters.
Those Outside the Faith
We can look to the unbelieving people in this narrative and understand how the unfaithful confront death. It is a horror. They are without hope or true comfort. They may delude themselves for a while with denial or some philosophy. They may falsely believe they have done good and deserve, therefore, to be in heaven because of this merit. They may falsely believe that God will not punish sinners. They may believe that there is no afterlife and upon death you go blank and return to mineral dust. They may not believe in hell.
Perhaps our Lord, in his common grace, permits many to die somewhat peacefully with these false thoughts that they may not suffer terribly. Perhaps he permits many survivors to avoid the full extent of pain and hopelessness in their false beliefs. But for many, if not most, confronting death is the most horrible experience. Atheists such as Voltaire, Nietzsche, and Foucault reportedly died in desperation, insanity, and in great hopeless suffering (respectively). Their deaths should serve as a warning to others. But despite this, the world admires them and believes the ideas that brought them to utter ruin and eternal suffering.
As Christians, our concern should be for the lost. As God does not take delight in the death of sinners neither should we. We see death for what it truly is. Our response should be like that of Jesus’ inward reaction. When Jesus’ wept over Jerusalem, the Greek word that is used to describe his mourning is the same as that used of Mary and the mourners: loud demonstrative wailing. Jesus understood that Jerusalem, the Holy City, along with so many of the Chosen People, would be destroyed and die in their rebellion and unbelief. He understood where they were going and wailed.
However, Jesus knew where Lazarus was going. And he understood the pain of death. Outflowed copious quiet tears. He needed no professional mourners, rituals, or customs. What do these things do for the dead? Are they really a comfort for the living?
The Better House
Solomon wrote:
It is better to go to the house of mourning
than to go to the house of feasting,
for this is the end of all mankind,
and the living will lay it to heart.
Sorrow is better than laughter,
for by sadness of face the heart is made glad.
The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning,
but the heart of fools is in the house of mirth.
It is better for a man to hear the rebuke of the wise
than to hear the song of fools.
For as the crackling of thorns under a pot,
so is the laughter of the fools;
this also is vanity. (Ec 7:2–6)
For it is the House of Mourning we confront Satan.
For it is in the House of Mourning we face our own mortality and see the consequences of our sin.
For it is in the House of Mourning that we hear the rebuke of the wise.
For it is in the House of Mourning that we learn of our fate should we die in rebellion to God.
For it is the House of Mourning that points to the Gospel if we have ears to hear.
For it is in the House of Mourning Christians learn to grieve properly and are comforted.
For it is in the House of Mourning Christians bear witness to others of the hope that is in us.
For it is in the House of Mourning Christians may be used of God to bring others to salvation.
For the fool understands not the House of Mourning.
For the fool deludes himself with false ideas and denial.
For the fool drowns himself in drink and bodily pleasure while going forth unto destruction.
For the fool hears the mourning, the bell tolling, and knows not that it is for him.
Application
Beloved, let us not walk in the dark but in the light. We must endeavor to do all for God’s Glory. Let us pray we die well despite our circumstances. In mourning, let us be witness to the goodness and mercy of God. As we live our lives as survivors, let us do so as bearers of the good news, in word and deed, living faith and trust in God that others may see, hear, and come to Jesus. Our suffering is for but a little while and we will be in Glory with Him, the author of our salvation. We will be reunited with the faithful who went before us and countless others we do not know in this life. And we will be with Jesus.
Like so many gifts of grace, we cannot muster these things from within and by our own strength. We need our Lord’s help. Perhaps, we often do not experience the comfort and peace we desire because we do not ask God, listen to Him, or obey Him. We must also remember that, like Lazarus, we are servants of our Lord and are asked to do His bidding for His purposes. This includes suffering for the Glory of God. This is how we grow in grace. Therefore, let us find comfort and strength in our suffering and despite our suffering.
Father, we are weak and lack understanding and faith. Please comfort us in our sorrow. Please give us understanding and the faith we
need. Please grant us the strength to
persevere and do thy work. Turn our
sorrow into gladness, our suffering into joy, and our loss into gain. For you, and you alone, are worthy of our trust,
love and worship. Grant us these things
in the name of your son, Jesus. Amen.
[1] Reference to this custom can be found in the Mishna Tractate on marriage and marital contracts. Concerning the husband’s responsibility for the bride:
F But he is liable to maintain her, and to ransom her, and to bury her.
G R. Judah says, “Even the poorest man in Israel should not hire fewer than two flutes and one professional wailing woman.”
Jacob Neusner, The Mishnah : A New Translation (New Haven, CT: Yale University Press, 1988), 386.
[2] John F. MacArthur Jr., John 1–11, MacArthur New Testament Commentary (Chicago: Moody Press, 2006), 466.
[3] D. A. Carson, The Gospel according to John, The Pillar New Testament Commentary (Leicester, England; Grand Rapids, MI: Inter-Varsity Press; W.B. Eerdmans, 1991), 416.
[4] Andreas J. Köstenberger, John, Baker Exegetical Commentary on the New Testament (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Academic, 2004), 340.
[5] Johannes P. Louw and Eugene Albert Nida, Greek-English Lexicon of the New Testament: Based on Semantic Domains (New York: United Bible Societies, 1996), 303.
[6] Ibid 1.